These are not all that I want to write about. I’ve been trying to get away from really long titles.
These week in my depression: new medication. The first one didn’t work at all. It kept me wired instead of helping me sleep which not good for my mental health. I need sleep to even remotely be on an even emotional keel. So the one medication is out and a new one is in. Hopefully, this one will work much better.
The last month has been difficult with all the changes at work. Dealing with the good supervisor leaving, being targeted by the bad supervisor, and having to deal with a misogynist jerk who refuses to work unless he is being watched by the supervisor. Add another jerk who refuses to work and you have a disaster just waiting to explode. The only consolation (and I know I’m bad for feeling this way) is that these idiots are on the bad supervisors shift. They can deal with them. There are some other issues at work that I can’t get into here but one that I can get into is the poor pay scale. I top out at my next eval which is in December. I will make the maximum amount for my position unless they give me a cost of living increase or I make supervisor which doesn’t seem likely since they keep hiring men. At least I have the opportunity to switch to a day shift with the two individuals who got promoted to supervisor leaving their shifts.
Apparently, tonight is going to be one of my bad nights. I think some of it is lack of sleep (doctor’s appointment yesterday morning threw off my sleep schedule), hormones (I should be getting my period in about the next 24 hours) and the depression. I am in tears right now and I don’t know why. But if I don’t continue writing, even in tears, I won’t get this post finished.
This post from And Sometime Tea (another Catholic blog) has a post on Blaming Women. Some highlights:
A third thing also needs to be said: the reason for including the story out of Phoenix with the second piece is not because of the story itself, but because of the jubilant reaction to the story which I’ve seen in some corners of the internet. I don’t want to cite any specific comments because I’m not out to start a blog/FB/etc. war, but there have been more than a few of which the tone has been something like “It’s about time they kicked those blankety-blank girls off of the altar–they’ve ruined everything.”
And that brings me to my point.
When Adam sinned in the Garden of Eden, the first thing he did was run off and leave Eve alone to deal with the serpent (which, according to Dr. Scott Hahn, was a fearsome dragon-like beast, not merely a little garter snake). The second thing he did was let Eve convince him to disobey God and eat the forbidden fruit. And the third thing he did, when God asked him about it, was to point the finger of blame at the woman who was of his own flesh and say, “Hey, it was her fault! She made me do it.”
Given how longstanding a tradition it is, then, for men to tend to blame women for things that go wrong, it shouldn’t be surprising to encounter that attitude in regard to such things as female altar servers, immodestly dressed churchgoers, and (if we may be honest) tons of other church-related issues, from issues dealing with women who have the audacity to show up with the noisy, wiggly products of their fertility in tow (and who, gasp, sometimes even nurse them while still on church property!) to women who sing at you to women who get up and do some of the readings to women who respond when Father asks people to help out as Extraordinary Ministers of Holy Communion. All of this, if you have a certain male mindset, is the fault of the women. It is not the fault of men who gave permission (however it was granted) for female altar servers; it is not the fault of men who let their daughters out their front doors dressed for Mass as if they hoped to solicit in the parking lot afterward (if, indeed, things are really that bad; I’ve never encountered anything quite so horrible as the writer of the second piece describes, but then, I’m female, and tend to see in unfortunately-revealing clothing nothing but a fashion mistake that the woman will hopefully correct when she becomes aware of the problem); it is the fault of women for having children and expecting those children to attend Mass–or for not arranging for babysitting etc. so the children don’t have to bother anyone until they’re old enough to be altar servers; it is the fault of women that women tend to outnumber male singers in the average parish choir by a ratio of at least three or four to one; it is the fault of women that women also outnumber the men who are willing to lector at Mass; and it is clearly the fault of women that male priests ask for Extraordinary Ministers of Holy Communion and that, once again, far more women than men show up in response.
I’ve seen and read comments made by men and women who say much worse than what the blogger posts. I mean much worse, to the point that it is advocated that women be locked up and they are going straight to hell. Because of these things I think these kinds of horrible thoughts, that I am evil, that I am at fault for men’s sins, that I am not loved by God and that God doesn’t even concern Himself with me. Traddies are the worst because they use “tradition” as defined by them to execute this kind of oppression of women and no, I’m not talking about altar servers or readers. They want women to be stay at home daughters who become stay at home mothers who have twenty children, who wait on their husband hand and foot, and are so useless and sinful that they will never get to heaven. Actually, they are not unlike the Quiverfull/patriarchy movement in fundamentalist evangelical Protestantism. They just dress it up with things like “tradition” and pull quotes out of context from papal documents saying, “See, even previous popes said women are evil and need to stay at home.” Which is entirely untrue when you read the WHOLE document in context.
I hate that people still hate women and make women hate themselves while convincing themselves that this is a “holy, Catholic” thing to do. It’s not.
Michael Pearl’s work is back in the news again due to a third child death. Hana Williams is the third reported victim of Pearl’s “child training” ideology. Why Not Train a Child? has several good posts about this latest little victim. I suggest reading all the links in the posts.
The Parents of Hana Williams plead not guilty (several news accounts are listed)
The Pearls’ Official Response (I suggest having a bucket near by when reading this spew of lies)
A Closer Look at the Pearls’ Teaching and Adoption (Hana was a child that had been adopted from Ethiopia by the Williams and had several medical and mental health issues)
A link from Why Not about older adoption which I link here just because it needed to stand on it’s own
This post about children and the myth of my happiness is a good example of the culture of death/culture of me first, always first