I Get It

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  1. Wow, do we have the same parents? Impossible, mine are protestant, yet..the same abusive behavior comes from both parents AND in-laws. In the 1930’s our parents were taught Facism in school(check- this is TRUE) because of a wide held belief at the time that capitolism was ending, or failing. My relatives and in-laws all believe in conditional love and especially scapegoating to the extreme. Do their will or suffer the consequences of being left out. I could go on. You can delete this part if you want: In my own desparation to start my own business, after being out of work over a decade, I set up a writing contest in hopes of starting a business that helps those in our exact position. My solution involves websites(in development) that will allow people to start any business at no cost, or very low cost( a Gyp free zone). Basically an actual fair home business with unlimited expandibility. For now, I am trying to gather customers with a writers contest(See ArtDaisy.com and ezine.artdaisy.com) and a $250 prize that WILL be awarded to the best writer. It ends May 10, but I only have 12-15 registered and ONE article – a poem. IF YOU want to enter, any of your material already written here on this blog looks good to me, you could just cut and paste any of this blog and you will qualify. A sort of parallel universe to mine! I would also welcome more people like us to start a dialog. Sorry so long, this is not sales spam, I am reading this because I like it.
    – Kent

  2. If you have survived your pain, you are not a failure. It is not your purpose in life to meet the expectations of others, certainly not those of family members incapable of loving you.

    Life is always better than death. Choose life… if nothing else to spite your detractors (small joke).

    It may have been your fault that you were fired. Then again, maybe not. Sexual harassment is against the law. Maybe what you need is the advice of a lawyer, not the advice of a family member.

    If you are the sole individual responsible for this recession, corporate downsizing nationwide, and the outsourcing of millions of jobs, I have a bone to pick with you. If not, you’re one of millions impacted.

    Unemployed (adjective): available to work, but currently without a paying job. NOT embarrassing. NOT fundamentally wrong. NOT a mistake.
    With two college degrees, you’re obviously not stupid. Make sure you seek validation from someone actually capable of giving it to you. Some people are simply blind. Others may find it easier to focus on your supposed defects, rather than theirs.

    Anyone saying you should limit yourself – rather than use the gifts God gave you – may be worried about their own limitations right about now. May have been worried about them all along.

    Self-blame is a paralyzing form of abuse. Don’t engage in it. If you’ve made mistakes, learn from them. That’s how life works for all of us. Criticism that convinces you that you can do nothing right will result in your doing nothing at all.

    Best Wishes,


  3. You are are not worthless or a failure. You are human. Don’t give up and don’t let the negative talk in your head bring you down. I know it’s easier said than done. Take care and I wish you the best.

  4. The point? That’s what keeps us going for some reason. Will it be worth it, living long enough to find the answer to that question? I don’t know. I just hope it is worth something to you when you reach that point.

    1. Do you ever have one of those shitty weeks that you didn’t know was a shitty week until Friday? And then everything just hit? That’s my week and why I wrote this post. I was actually going to delete it when I got your comment. All that I wrote has been going through my head. And while I’ll never commit suicide, the thoughts are still there. I think the biggest thing is that it’s been almost two years now that I’ve been unemployed and I still don’t have a job. Other people I know who were unemployed got jobs quickly but here I am still jobless and even though I’m applying to jobs nothing seems to change. I just feel more worthless and useless.

      1. I don’t even realize when the week goes by, it’s been like this for 3 years. I can imagine how scary joblessness can be. Why you didn’t find a job till now, well, it’s a shitty unfair world and we try to deal with it as we can. Don’t be ashamed of your thoughts about suicide, they’re a sign of the turmoil you’re going through. I don’t talk about hope much, but keeping at it is all we have, such as it is. Keep posting, there are much better pep talkers than me out here. I know, I’ve been helped in some ways by many.

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