Yesterday’s post garnered quite a lot of attention. And it brought out the comment trolls. Policy is still enforced.
There was a point that I didn’t make yesterday and applies not just to gays and children but society’s view of children in general.
Children have become a possession instead of the people they actually are. Children are treated as things to collect. Like dolls you can dress up, feed, play with them but if they don’t meet adults impossible standards or the adults grow tired of them the children are abused, thrown away, rehomed, or even killed. I thought the increase in child abuse reports had to do with better reporting and tracking. Yes and no. There is better reporting but also, more parents are hurting their children.
There has been a shift in how society sees children. On one level, they have become people worthy of rights and protection. Overall, though, children are much more likely to be seen and considered possessions, toys, objects to show off to others. They don’t exist as people with needs and wants of their own.
So children become pawns, objects in a game. Especially when the adult considers their rights more important than anybody else’s. “Gay marriage” places gays’ sexual orientation and acts above the protection of children. Homosexuals who “marry” and then “have” children are using those children to play at marriage and family. Their “gay marriage” and “family” is entirely artificial. It comes from forcing mismatched pieces together to make something they were not meant to make or go together.
And while it can happen in heterosexual marriages, children are a natural part and result of the marriage. Yes, the couple may use artificial means to have children (IVF, surrogacy, sperm donors, etc.) but these methods are still wrong and force a children conceived by one of these means to be a possession. They “create” a child in the lab instead of through the natural means of sexual intercourse. And most of those artificial methods have a high failure rate and are expensive.
Heterosexual marriage is the best family for children. They get a mother and father who create them in love and raise them in a stable environment that is protective and nurturing. The children are people in this family rather than objects of possession.
Yes, abuse is possible but it is much, much less likely to happen than in any other “family” makeup. The instant a child loses a parent instability and insecurity sets in. No matter if the child gains another parent through a parent’s new marriage or the parent stays single or the parent chooses to be in a homosexual relationship, the child loses. Even if the child has been removed from an abusive home, the child knows that it needs and wants a mother and a father. Artificial means of procreation tells the child that the adult’s desires are more important than the child’s needs and that the child is like an object bought at the store instead of the child lovingly created through an act of love and unity.
Children know. They are people, too, and that is a fact that we ignore, deny, and cover up to our own and their peril. Children, once they figure out that they are supposed to have a mother and father, feel lost and ashamed for not having what they expect. They feel that it is their fault that they do not have whichever parent is missing from their lives and so determine that they are unimportant and worthless as people. If they feel they are there just to serve the adults’ selfish needs and wants, they are being abused and their rights to care, love and protection violated.
I think hearing from two gay men on how they view all this is important. When they stand up for the family, it’s a big deal.
In an interview with the Italian magazine Panorama, designers Domenico Dolce and Stefano Gabbana of Dolce & Gabbana had some contentious things to say about same-sex families.
According to translations, the pair — who dated for 23 years and broke up in 2005 — stated that children born through IVF are “children of chemistry, synthetic children. Uteruses for rent, semen chosen from a catalog.”
“I am gay, I cannot have a child. I guess you cannot have everything in life,” Dolce added. “Life has a natural course, some things cannot be changed. One is the family.”